Occasionally a therapist has to fire a client.
This is called therapeutic discharge.
I’ve done it occasionally over the years. It’s always sad.
But sometimes there’s no avoiding it.
I remember one guy whose therapy was going nowhere. After two years we were still having essentially the same conversation we’d had the first time I met him.
He was a blamer. My wife doesn’t love me. My parents weren’t there for me. I get no respect from my boss, or my neighbors, or my kids.
I tried my best to get him to consider that he might be contributing to these problems. His typical response varied between impatience (No, you don’t understand), defensiveness (I try so hard) and hurt feelings.
He was stuck at the first stage of learning.
There are four stages: