It is generally recognized that an addict’s recovery begins the moment they hit bottom.
Bottom, of course, is that point where some internal scale tips and the pain of addiction outweighs their fear of giving it up. It’s the moment they stop denying, surrender to reality, and become willing to do whatever it takes to get better.
But bottoms are necessary for everyone, I think.
Change can be scary and confusing. Change can hurt. It’s not easy to change your life. Possible, but never easy.
So we all avoid changing like we avoid the dentist. We wait until the tooth hurts too much to ignore.
This explains why — at least in my experience — the people helped by therapy just a little vastly outnumber those who are helped by therapy a whole lot.
Members of the latter group aren’t smarter, necessarily. Just braver, more honest and more persistent.
If you find yourself in this group, congratulations.
I admire your willingness to do this important inner work.
More power to you.