Intimacy means being yourself with another person and allowing them to do the same with you. As alternatives to control go it’s the toughest to practice, since it depends on practicing the other two alternatives — surrender and responsibility — as well. Intimacy’s hard emotional work for everyone. For control addicts it can be downright terrifying. But it’s also as good as relationships between human beings ever get.
From Bert’s Therapy, session 6:
I’ve decided I don’t like therapy.