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We wake up one day

at the age of forty

dreading going to work

because we were forced

to pick a career

before we could

legally buy a beer.


Why does this happen?


It’s because so many of us

in our younger years

think that a means goal

is really an end goal.


We confuse the two.


And these things are

really, really different.




From The three most important questions to ask yourself by Vishen Lakhiani (13:15), who writes,


Over the years I’ve come to stop believing in goal setting.


Because goal setting, or at least the way most of us are trained to do it, actually gets us to be obsessed about the how of attaining our goals, rather than the passion, the vision, and the beauty of the goal itself.

In short, we get obsessed with the “means,” rather than the “end.”

In this video, we are going to change the way you think about goal setting. We are going to present to you the 3 most important questions to ask yourself. If everyone asked themselves these questions at the age of 18, we believe the world would be a much happier place.

But no matter how old you are, it’s not too late.

This exercise will change the way you plan your life and see your goals. It’ll change the way you see your career, mission, and life purpose unfolding. The intro to the exercise takes no more than 5 minutes, and the exercise itself takes 7 minutes.

This could be one of the most important 12 minutes of your life.


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Now playing

over at

Mental Health Talk:

“Monkeytraps 101 ~

Bert’s Crash Course

in Control,”

Lesson 2:

2 responses to “Questions

  • Yaz

    Going to share Vishen’s video with my 22 year-old daughter…I can hear Bert telling me I’m trying to control…yep, that’s me being human again! Thanks for the referral. Both videos (Lesson 2 and Vishen) were educational as usual.

    • Steve Hauptman

      Glad you liked then, Yaz. Vishen’s is longer than I usually post, but the distinction at the heart of it (between means and ends) is pretty important.

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