Canaries

* * *

In a some families

— alcoholic, abusive or

otherwise dysfunctional —

kids aren’t

allowed to be

themselves.

.

They aren’t allowed

to listen to

their own feelings

or act in service of

their own needs.

.

Instead they get drafted

into unconscious roles

intended to meet the needs

of the family.

.

They get lost, and end up

believing stuff like:

.

“If I’m smart enough,

and good enough at sports,

I can save my family…”

.

“I just don’t want to cause

any more trouble

for my family.”

.

“If I make everything fun,

we don’t have to think

about our problems.”

.

“If you don’t care,

then I don’t care either.”

.

.

This dynamic is

far more common

than most people think.

.

~ Watch the rest of Common roles played in alcoholic families (2:09).

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