April 29, 2012
Session 43: Faith
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April 29th, 2012 at 11:21 am
Monkeytraps, aren’t there people who are so broken they don’t respond to being fed? I feel like my kids and I fed and fed and fed their dad for a very long time and he never responded.
I like “throw it right back in my faith.” Clever.
April 29th, 2012 at 11:33 am
Sadly, yes. Probably the worst examples of this are pathological narcissists — folks whose brokenness takes the form of a sort of black hole of neediness which never gets filled. If that’s what you and your kids lived with, I’m sorry, especially if it left any of you feeling inadequate in any way. Faith is wonderful, but it has to be balanced by realism. And you can feed someone for just so long before you yourself start to starve.
April 29th, 2012 at 11:40 am
What do you know! That’s exactly what he is. Fortunately, most of the damage was done to me. I keep a close eye on my kids but they seem to be very well-adjusted. Thanks for answering.
April 29th, 2012 at 3:17 pm
Steve,
It never fails to amaze me how much profound truth you can squeeze into a few lines of dialog. Working through our mistrust and learning to have faith in the relationship was exactly what saved our marriage. I was blessed in that my husband and I were both willing to see our own responsibility (OK, it took me a little while :)) and we both worked very hard to fake it. Really good reminder, thank you.
AG
April 29th, 2012 at 3:24 pm
Thanks, AG. Good for you both. Yeah, responsibility-taking is a bitch. But if there’s a magic medicine for wounded marriages, that’s got to be it.
May 2nd, 2012 at 11:31 am
Love you guys! Pearls of wisdom with a smile. Makes me love to hurt!
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