Bert’s therapy: Happy

 

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Still unhappy, I gather.

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Yeah.

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Why do you think that is?

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I don’t know.  Because I don’t have what I want, I guess.

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 And what do you want?

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Well, a job that pays better.

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therapist 1

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A less angry wife.

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A son who can pass Math.

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And a reason to smile occasionally.

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therapist 1

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Any suggestions?

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Yes.  Redefine happiness.

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Redefine how?

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Stop thinking of happiness as getting what you want.

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bert 1

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Try thinking of it as having what you need.

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What difference would that make?

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 Would you rather be underpaid or unemployed?

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The former.

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Would you rather have an angry wife or live alone?

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Again, the former.

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Would you rather have a Math dunce for a son, or no son at all?

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I’ll take the dunce.

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Congratulations.  It seems you already have what you need.

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Plus a reason to smile.

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Want more?

 

 

People are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.  

~ Abraham Lincoln

 

 

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The Second Noble Truth of Buddha is that craving anything is suffering.

Often it is translated as “the cause of suffering is craving,” but I think that misses the point.

Cause sounds like something happens first and produces a particular result.  It could be construed as “crave now, suffer later.” 

I believe it is “crave now, suffer now.”

I once heard someone say that a sign of enlightenment was the ability to say (and mean it) in any moment, “Well, this isn’t what I want, but it’s what I got, so okay.”

~ Syliva Boorstein, It’s easier than you think: The Buddhist way to happiness (HarperCollins, 1997).

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