June 21, 2010
Hey. You. With the banana.
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June 21st, 2010 at 7:10 pm
So far so good I want that banana
June 21st, 2010 at 7:37 pm
Um, Rich, I think you may be missing the point….
June 21st, 2010 at 7:25 pm
Congratulations Steve, this is great!! I am looking forward to your next entry….but I already know I have no control over that 😉
June 21st, 2010 at 7:36 pm
Yeah. Me neither.
June 21st, 2010 at 7:57 pm
Congrats Steve!!!! I like it. I’ll be back!!
June 21st, 2010 at 7:59 pm
What a great dialog! Core concepts. Seems like what we’re all seeking is the choice–how to let go of the banana when every atom of our being believes that hanging on is our salvation. And, of course, sometimes it is! But then…
June 21st, 2010 at 9:01 pm
Thanks, Hal. Yeah, that “sometimes” really confuses the issue. So tempting to translate it as “always.”
June 21st, 2010 at 11:11 pm
Love your writing style; I’ll definitely be back.
June 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Thanks, Holly. I like yours too.
June 22nd, 2010 at 12:18 am
Very good read… I definately can identify with this and I will be back on your site to keep reading more.
June 22nd, 2010 at 8:00 am
Hi Steve,
Love It!! Get it!! More More More!!
June 22nd, 2010 at 9:25 am
I know from whence you speak and you, especially know that. these are concepts I’ve been addressing through my practice. I face them every moment and through practice I’ve made a lot of improvements, but you know, life is not for the faint of heart. However life is a
momentary thing. Just come back from Nova Scotia – I chose to go alone for my own personal Buddhist moment. No disappointments there. I want to read more.
June 22nd, 2010 at 9:32 pm
Congratulations Steve! I really enjoyed reading and you got me thinking about a name for my inner monkey.
June 22nd, 2010 at 11:45 pm
Wow. Can’t wait to hear.
June 22nd, 2010 at 10:20 pm
Very Interesting. Reading this makes me feel like it’s time to rid myself of all these bananas I’ve collected. I look forward to reading more from you and Thank You.
June 22nd, 2010 at 11:44 pm
You’re welcome, Mac. Glad you liked it.
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:13 pm
I loved the transitions from monkey trap to problems being caused by holding on to things that should be let go, that you developed into issues of control, and finally you gave one answer to life’s difficulties……letting go. (I also obviously love run-on sentences…..) Steve, you’re on to something. Stick with the metaphores! Reminds me of when i finally learned how to swim….just let go and did nothing….very liberating! Keep it coming..
Jeff
June 23rd, 2010 at 4:05 pm
Thanks for starting this blog, I think I’ll find it very helpful.
So if something “scares us or confuses us or makes us uncomfortable” that means it is not controllable?
June 23rd, 2010 at 8:57 pm
No, I don’t mean to imply that. Certainly there are discomforts we can control. (Like this mosquito. There. Got him.) My point is that we tend to react to discomfort by seeking control, and that most of the time we do so reflexively, without stopping to consider whether control is possible and/or appropriate.
June 24th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
Hi Steve
Great Job!! I’m looking forward to your next entry. I’LL be back.
June 25th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
This is so Buddhist. It is all about non attachment.
It is letting go of any attachment whether it’s bananas or people or things. When we do let go freedom follows.
June 25th, 2010 at 10:48 pm
love it, cant wait for more more more!
July 2nd, 2010 at 9:40 am
Might have to stop the “control the controllables” mantra. And, I’m married to the human who doesn’t seek control, possibly the lowest maintenance man in the world.
Enjoyed it,will be back!
July 2nd, 2010 at 9:48 am
Hi Alice, glad you liked it. Don’t know your husband, of course, but one of my basic assumptions is that there’s nobody who doesn’t seek control. Some of us are just more obvious than others. Stay tuned for future posts on the many faces of control.
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:37 am
Steve WOW really good stuff,
July 4th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Thanks, Rob.
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:38 am
really good steve
July 4th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Thanks, Terri.
August 10th, 2010 at 2:32 pm
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